Chronic disconnection is really hard to undo... Finding those growth-promoting, healing healthy connections is important
I've slowly warmed to an appreciation of the You-niverse after a long time in a dismal self-imploding void of disconnection.
I find THE most potently healing and desirable emotional space is a feeling of Heart-to-Heart connection - to simply feel deeper levels of connection, love, kindness, compassion, gratitude etc. It's an interesting dilemma how one with severe struggles can generate healing heart-centred relational connections, emotional intimacy and healthy growth while addressing fundamental emotional needs like love and belonging, which to me are some of the strongest and most important interpersonal healing forces for positive growth.
The You-niverse is:
The gateway to beyond
The fear within
The pain and pleasure
The expansion of my narrowness
The unexplored frontier
The birther of the fire of love
The catalyst of growth
The death of stagnation
The lotus blooming beyond the mud
The light in the dark
Normally my self-other boundaries are extremely walled or pathologically blurred but finding through creating art and creative writing as a proxy to therapeutic human relating, I can healthily dissolve into, relate to and merge with 'other' into feelings of greater emotional intimacy, respectful equality and healthy connection and explore new healthier areas.
Often my rational-analytical mind takes over and I 'analyse the hell' out of anything in rigid you-vs-me where the relational field is I'm not OK, you're OK, but through a more creative approach, the self-other boundaries become much more healthily emotionally fluid, those walls start to dissolve to We, there becomes 'no other' just a healing connected relational field of 'Us' where a healthier part of Self that is 'OK' slowly builds and starts to lovingly embrace that 'you're OK' too
I really like the concept of 'healing heartmates'
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